Yes, but! How many times have you experienced this? We are talking about an idea we have and someone else has to tell us we are wrong. In an intimate relationship, we need to be good listeners. We can’t just disagree and blast our partners by telling them they’re wrong. We can disagree and still [...]
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Listening Mistake: Defensive Listening
Posted in communication on July 6, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Speaking Mistakes: Criticizing
Posted in communication on June 18, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Criticizing is when the speaker points out the negative in another person. Often explained as “I am only telling the truth”, criticism often leaves the listener feeling hurt, angry and possibly demeaned. Here is an example: A husband is depressed over the state of the economy and how much money his family has lost. His [...]
Listening Mistake: Filtering
Posted in communication, divorce, marriage, men, sex, women on May 6, 2010 | Leave a Comment »
Filtering means we let some information in and block other information out. For example, you come home late again from work and your wife gets angry. She says, “I can not do this anymore. I have too much to do to wait for you to get home. And when you do get home, you just [...]
